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1) Going straight for her vulva, clitoris or breasts A woman is probably going to be irritated than sexually aroused when a man goes for her breasts and vulva after a bit of kissing. Be aware of what she needs and touch her sexual parts only when she's sexually aroused. If you go for her breasts when you get her into bed and twiddle her nipples like you're tuning a radio receiver, you're not going to get a very good reception. 2) Not knowing how to kiss like a romantic Passionate kissing is an art form which eases a couple into the main event of sex and promotes intimacy. Learn how to kiss your partner, and do it well. That wouldn't include sticking your tongue between her teeth and wiggling it around madly. 3) Being too rough when you touch her erogenous zones Men like to have a strong touch applied to their dick. But if you approach her clitoris with the same as you apply to your penis when you're treating Mr. Happy to a quick morning massage, she's likely to howl with pain - and then she'll probably kick you out of bed. The clitoris has twice as many nerves as the penis, so it's very sensitive. Treat it accordingly. 4) Not stroking her gently A woman's largest sex organ is her mind. The next largest is her skin. If you were thinking of anything else, think again. For a woman, sex is all about making connection. And that includes skin to skin contact. An hour spent massaging her will arouse her to her need for sex and almost certainly guarantee she has an orgasm one way or another. So ensure you focus on putting your sexual energy into your fingers while you massage her. That means not thinking distractedly about the baseball game while you're oiling her up. 5) Locking onto her nipples like a suckling child Tempting though it may be to suck on her breasts, she's not going to want you reminding her of the last time a teething child bit into her nipple. Kiss all around her areolae and gently work towards her nipple, licking it with your tongue and maybe carefully sucking it between your lips when she's really aroused. If she likes what you're doing, you'll know by her moans of delight. 6) Biting or blowing on her earlobe because you think it's sexy Very few women seem to find this exciting. Your time would be better spent searching out her erogenous zones elsewhere. 7) Leaving a hickey on her neck If you're over the age of consent, this is a no-no. If you need to know why, you're obviously under age and you shouldn't be having sex. 8) Not shaving before sex Think back to the last time you gave oral sex to a woman with a few days' growth around her vulva. Now imagine that stubble brushing back and forth on your face in the mad throes of passionate kissing. Enough said? 9) Not washing your pits and bits before you have sex Even if you have what the French call a tart's wash, make sure you're a smell-free zone when you enter the bedroom. (In case you need to know - the male tart's wash is washing your penis, balls, ass, and armpits.) 10) Forgetting that romance starts a long time before lovemaking Every woman wants to be appreciated. If you touch her lovingly all day, keep shooting her sexy, loving looks, and take the trouble to make sure she knows you're thinking of her, she'll be ready to melt into your arms by bedtime. Leaving loving little noteswhere she'll find them is also a good idea. But make sure they are romantic! 11) Inserting a finger before she's ready Yes, we know you're a man, and we know you're obsessed with penetration. But hold on. Take your time, let events move at their own pace, and only pluck the fruit when you know it's really ripe and dripping juice. While men forget that women like to be entered just as much as men (which is just as well, when you think how much men like to stick things up a woman), she'll only want this when she's aroused enough to enjoy it. So as you finger her clit, you can check out her vagina. If it's moist and open, she may well be receptive to a finger on her G-spot. Start gently and apply a firmer touch as you go. If you don't know what the G-spot is, go check it out on the internet. 12) Going for her clitoris during oral sex or masturbation Most women just find this irritating - and very uncomfortable too, if the clit isn't aroused and slippery. Work from around her labia, the lips of her vulva, towards the clitoris as she gets more sexuall excited. Even then, a subtle touch along the shaft of her clitoris around to the side of the clitoral head may be better for her. 3) Stopping when she wants you to keep going at all costs If she's nearing orgasm she certainly won't want you to stop whatever you're doing, whether it's with your cock, your fingers or your tongue. Since cunnilingus is hard on the tongue, we suggest you make sure your hands are ready in reserve if you get a bad case of lock jaw. If she's not saying much, she may be lying there silent because she's got lost in her excitement, not because you're licking ineffectively at her clit. But then again, how would you know? She may be loving what you're doing that she shows it by pressing her vulva more firmly against your mouth or fingers, in which case carry on with your stimulation. If she gives off an aura that she'd rather be cooking the dinner, you need to think of something else. Like asking her what she wants, maybe? 14) Undressing her inelegantly Listen up guys: you don't have to struggle with those zips while you kiss her. Indeed, she might well appreciate it more if you let her disrobe. Nothing about an underwear fumble is funny, when it interrupts the romance. Let her take off the clothes you don't know about and when you do help, make it look like you're undressing her gently and sensuously rather than pulling at her clothes like you can't wait to fuck her - even if you that's true. 15) Looking like a clown in the bedroom Nothing is more comical to a woman than a man wearing his underpants and shoes. Why this should be so remains a mystery, since it seems so natural to a man to undress like that. However, if you don't want her to take pity on you, take off your socks first. 16) Expecting her to shave for you Yes, we know you like the smooth look around her vulva, but if she's not into shaving, don't put pressure on her to smooth it out for you. There are few things more annoying than itchy stubble in the pubes. If you want to see more and have easier access to her pussy, ask her to trim the hair. 17) Entering her without asking her first Such a controversial idea! And yet so nice - occasionally, at least - to be romantic and ask "May I enter you?" This can be a very exciting and loving way to go if you're looking deep into her eyes. Needless to say, that's most likely to happen in the man on top position, which, by the way, remains everyone's most popular position for sex. And then again, there are times when you can just sense the moment for penetration - but always remember not to let your judgment be affected by how much you want to get your penis inside her. Yes, we know the urge is hard to resist. But be a man - and make sure she's ready first. 18) Probing around her vulva with your penis if you can't find the way in There is nothing more guaranteed to turn a woman off than you thrusting blindly at her vulva trying to get your penis in her vagina. If you can't find the way in (it happens) on your own, tell her what's going on and ask her to guide your penis in. There's no shame in that, but acting like a klutz can ruin sex for you both. And anyway, it'll be quicker if she just puts it in for you. 19) Pumping away without regard for her pleasure Now you're in! Hurrah! But where do you go from here? Vigorous thrusting? Bad idea.....surely you'll want to show some consideration for her pleasure? So make sure you start with slow and shallow penile thrusts. When you make love, she'll like it best if you act like a real man: be confident, know what you're doing, be thoughtful and gentle at first, and work up to more powerful thrusts if she starts moaning with pleasure (as in "oh, yes, fuck me harder!"). 20) Expecting her to present her bottom to you when you want it doggie style It's a man thing, the desire for rear entry sex. Mostly. Then again, women sometimes get the urge for rampant, primal sex too. In between, you might get it on special occasions, if you're lucky. And if you do persuade her to get her ass in the air, don't make the mistake of slapping her rump like you're riding a horse. 21) Thrusting too hard when you have a big penis If you happen to have a large member, restrain yourself as you thrust, or you might hear her shriek as you hit her cervix. This will not, probably, be a shriek of delight. It may, however, signal the end of your pleasure for now. 22) Rapid ejaculation is not the mark of a mature lover Sadly few men have the endurance that allows them to really satisfy a woman who enjoys vaginal intercourse and thrusting against her G-spot. You can improve your staying-power with self help exercises, but if you just can't be bothered, at least have the consideration to keep going for at least long enough to give her some pleasure. Do some research on Google for "end premature ejaculation". 23) Not coming at all - retarded ejaculation Delayed ejaculation is not a good thing. She won't see it as any kind of blessing, either, when her vagina is bone dry, she's bored out of her mind and you still aren't anywhere near ejaculating. So if you are one of the men who have trouble reaching orgasm, go see a sexual therapist! The sooner you get treated, the sooner she'll be able to enjoy making love with you and stop having plenty of time to think about her shopping list. 24) Losing your erection when you put the condom on This is very common, so it's back to Google for you. Try a search on "losing erection when putting on a condom" and see if you can find a solutions. 25) Not being willing to go down on her when she wants oral pleasure Most men like the idea of going down on a woman, so any doubts must be about her scent or taste. If she's a bit ripe, then suggest a bath as part of foreplay. If all you're interested in is getting her to suck your cock and you won't reciprocate, reading these tips isn't going to help you. 26) Failing to give her pleasure if you have premature ejaculation By the way, women come first - at least where sex is concerned. She doesn't want to lie next to you as you snore gently after a big orgasm when she's still unsatisfied. We men lose interest in sex once we've ejaculated - so make sure sh
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